After Quinn’s stillbirth, I came to the sobering realization
that death was real and I had numbered days left on this planet. My beloved daughter wasn’t given the chance to
live, but I was. This experience made me
look at my life critically – am I living my best life? What do I want to teach my living daughter
about life?
However, I was stuck - How in the world am I supposed to go on
living after meeting death? The book, “Life Lessons” by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler was a tremendous resource
and helped me address some of these questions.
The authors interview the dying and talk about their advice for
living. Who better to learn about living
than those who are at the end of their lives?
The book gives lessons on 14 topics: authenticity, love,
relationships, loss, power, guilt, time, fear, anger, play, patience,
surrender, forgiveness, and happiness. I
took away something genuinely helpful in each category. This book has helped me live in the now and
understand that life truly is a gift. The people in your life are gifts.
If you are given the good fortune to life another day, how are you going
to live it?
I won’t spoil the book by giving details on each lesson, but
the lessons that have helped me the most are about time, fear, and play:
- Time: When we have truly lived our lives, we don’t want to live them again. It was the life that was not lived that we regret.
Since the stillbirth of my daughter, I have
a choice about how I will live the rest of my life. I can surrender to the grief and live a life
of sorrow. I can be jealous of other
pregnant women and the new life that they create. Or, I can hold my love for Quinn in my heart
and do something with it. I can do
positive work in her honor. I can live a
meaningful life and do it for Quinn, because she can’t. I can teach the lessons of love and life to
my living daughter. I don’t get another
chance at this life - the time to live it is now.
- Fear: Our fears don’t stop death – they stop life.
- Play: People’s number one regret in life is that they wish they didn’t take life so seriously.
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There are
many lessons like the above in this book.
Anyone who has a consciousness about living the life that they truly
want would benefit from this book. It
was touching to hear people’s stories and hear their wise words on life and
living.
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