Here are the ways people I love have honored my sweet beautiful Quinn:
Quinn's Aunt, Uncle, and cousins
in Michigan
They taught me that I can create a sacred space for Quinn anywhere at
any time. They sent me this
beautiful picture of Quinn’s name in the sand during a trip to Florida, which
came as the most wonderful and unexpected delight. It had only been a couple days since her death and I was so
touched that they began to honor Quinn so soon and it filled my soul to see her
beauty during such a dark time.
Quinn's Auntie, Uncle, and cousins in Texas
I was brought to tears when Auntie and Uncle included a memorial brick
for Quinn on Paving the Way to Bo’s Place. This is a special place that offers
support and programs to bereaved families. To have Quinn’s name among others’ is comforting. I carefully took note of her neighbors,
and said a prayer for their families, whose hearts are also aching. At the center, the director, who wore
purple (Quinn’s color), welcomed me and I felt a rush of calm as she held me in
her embrace. It was healing to
look through their books and at the quilt squares made by other grieving
mothers. I’m sad that Bo’s place
has to exist but it feels good to be held tightly in a community that
cares.
My Colleague
In the early days after Quinn’s death, I was completely desperate for
people to do things for her. I was
obsessed with making sure other people knew she was real. Among other things, I really wanted
people to light candles for her.
When I saw that my colleague enrolled her in the Association of Marian
Helpers for 5 years, even though I am not Catholic, I was relieved and calmed. Knowing that there is always a candle
lit for her and that others are praying for her fills my heart.
R's Daycare Teacher
I was moved when R’s daycare teacher used the forget-me-not seeds she
received at Quinn’s memorial for a class project. The kids planted them and are watching them grow throughout spring. Even children who never
met Quinn are being touched by the beauty of Quinn’s sacred spaces.
Quinn's Flowers
I am calling the African Violet “Quinn’s Flower.” Her birth flower is the violet, so this
only seems appropriate. Many loved
ones have Quinn’s flower to brighten their homes.
Great Aunt and Great Uncle in MD |
Aunt, Uncle, and cousin in NJ |
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